A tsunami of a Thursday...
Today's entry was inspired by this song - 'Over It' by Katharine McPhee - and it's going to be a little bit of a depressing entry I guess because as you must have guessed by now, it's about the end of relationships.
There are many things I want to touch upon: the end of relationships/etc., how and when to end a relationship/etc., and also how to cope with the end of a relationship/etc. both if you're the one who ended it or if you're the one who gets the rough end of the deal. So I'm thinking that this might be the first mini series I do in my blog and since there are...3 main topics that means it'll be a 3 part series. Today I'm going to talk about the end of a relationship (etc.!) just to give an introduction of sorts (cue: play song for some background music!)
Everything about your future outlook depends on how you look at the demise of a relationship. Don't swear off love forever or become a bitter person because of the experience, seriously. Even if things finished in the most dramatic way possible don't take it negatively, instead you should relish the fact that it was so amazing that it had the most fitting end to it: movie material drama! See? It's already looking positive. You could turn that bad ending into something like a script for a movie or a book or even a blog post - share it with others and you might be surprised how much positive feedback you'll get for it.
I believe every person is entitled to a brief period of time to smash dishes, punch walls and cry until you create a lake in your bed (none of those should be done literally, it's just an example, if anything you should be crying, yes, but in moderation and with plenty of good food, movies and a best friend to mutter obscenities to!) but that you should also know to stop and tell yourself to stop with the theatrics. Yes, vent it all out and get it all out but then save face and be dignified: move on with your life.
If you simply cannot bear to turn your experience into something like a movie (perhaps this isn't advisable either...there is nothing good about airing dirty laundry from the past. Unless you just use your experience as inspiration) then turn it into a learning experience for yourself, tuck it away deep in your stash of memories and trust me, one day it'll come in handy. Most likely when you decide to give relationships another chance.
The end of a relationship isn't something to be negative about at all: if it wasn't working for you or if it wasn't working for your partner then it's for the best that things ended because eventually it would've turned into something entirely too bitter and unhappy for either of you to bear. Or if that is the case when things ended for you, so much the better - now both of you no longer have to suffer.
See? Always good in every situation.
If things were good and there was no reason to end things (valid reasons count, like ending a relationship because of long distance or because of allergies to the person...kidding) then obviously you're confused and hurt beyond reason and definitely angry to no end. BUT view it this way: if your partner (well, ex partner) was silly enough to end something good then you are most definitely better off without them and with someone who will appreciate you triplefold. Simple as that.
Finally, and THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER: just because a relationship ends, it DOES NOT MEAN YOUR LIFE HAS TO END TOO. Learn to live again, healing often gives us the best gift of all, and that is strength and knowledge from the experience to tide us over in the future.
