A tsunami of a Thursday...
The Thursday before last I wrote about the end of relationships (etc.) and so today I want to touch upon how and when to end a relationship (etc.!) seeing as most people are genuinely clueless at times and end up hurting others and suffering unnecessarily. Keep in mind, this isn't an extensive entry but just a few suggestions.
Relationships in the modern day vary: you have your good old regular relationship in which you are involved with someone and are exclusive to that person whether it be for the long run or just short term.
Then of course you have "understandings", "friends with benefits" or other cruder terms. The gist of these relationships is that it's nothing exclusive, nothing long term but more or less for the moment while the going is good.
Finally, you have the long term commitments. Now this could be marriage or it could be just living with someone or being in something like a married situation except you both choose not to get married (it's slightly different from living with a person).
Now, when it comes to ending what you may have with someone special...it's never easy to consider ending things nor it is ever easy to actually end what you have. The truth is it will take a lot of willpower and being selfless on your behalf especially if you're finding it extremely difficult to let go. At times we'll be reluctant to let go of a person because we wouldn't want to hurt them or we'd wouldn't want to change the routine of life you have with that person. However here are the instances as to when you ought to end a relationship:
● If you both have reached the end of your patience: At times you may have great chemistry with a person but suddenly it'll fizzle out. You try and try again to make things work but it never rekindles. That is when you should recognize that the best thing to do is to move on, the more you try to rekindle things, sometimes the less of a chance you'll have at being friends with your partner after the relationship is truly over.
● Circumstances prove to be too much: Now this one is a tough one, sometimes things may work despite the worst of circumstances but sometimes they will not and you have to be strong and realize it if that's the case. An example of this may be if you're in a long distance relationship and years have passed by without either of you appearing to attempt to move closer to the other or perhaps your separate lives prove too hard to uproot for the other person. In this case ending it might be easier than trying to keep things going with no hope for a future together.
● When you're kissing a fish: You will always realize it, your partner may be unresponsive when you're affectionate and they ignore you entirely as though you have ceased to exist. They may not be ending things for a reason like you're useful to have around (how many of us have been used like this?) or they just can't be bothered. So it's up to YOU to end things and to give yourself the chance to be happy. If you want to be loved there is no point trying to get it from someone who won't return it.
● Circumstances prove to be too much: Now this one is a tough one, sometimes things may work despite the worst of circumstances but sometimes they will not and you have to be strong and realize it if that's the case. An example of this may be if you're in a long distance relationship and years have passed by without either of you appearing to attempt to move closer to the other or perhaps your separate lives prove too hard to uproot for the other person. In this case ending it might be easier than trying to keep things going with no hope for a future together.
● When you're kissing a fish: You will always realize it, your partner may be unresponsive when you're affectionate and they ignore you entirely as though you have ceased to exist. They may not be ending things for a reason like you're useful to have around (how many of us have been used like this?) or they just can't be bothered. So it's up to YOU to end things and to give yourself the chance to be happy. If you want to be loved there is no point trying to get it from someone who won't return it.
Now how in the world do you go about ending a relationship (etc.) that has been the most legendary experience of your life yet? Well, it's not going to be easy but there's only a few ways to go about it:
● Don't make it into a soap: Daytime TV way of ending a relationship? Not really a great way of doing it in real life. Don't do it in public, don't do it in front of your friends (don't do it through a friend either!), don't publicize it - be low key and you both can hold your heads up high afterward.
What else do you think is important?
P.S. Isn't Drew Fuller (the guy in Lindsay Lohan's music video) a cutie? I loved him the moment I saw him on 'Charmed' - it was the floppy hair that did it for me! (:
